Well, another Valentine’s Day is upon us. Ever since I stopped passing out little envelopes and suckers to the whole class in elementary school, the meaning of Valentine’s Day has taken on a number of different meanings. In my teen years it was an opportunity to lure Young Cuties into “the Web”; as a young adult, it was a chance to hone my Super Smooth Mack Moves, and as an adult…it became an all out responsibility!!
That’s right….I said it. I know some of you guys are thinking the same thing…you just don’t dare say it out loud. Hell, making sure you do good by your sweetie on February 14th ends up falling on the same list as going to your bi-annual dentist appointment and cleaning out the gutters. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve got no problem with making sure my “Special Someone” feels loved…but I do have an issue with having to jump through hoops and do a song and dance just because the calendar says it’s February 14th and my girlfriend doesn’t want to have ‘That Look’ on her face when her girlfriends ask what I did for her on Valentine’s Day!!
Ladies won’t admit it, but it’s the god’s honest truth. We’ve all seen our friends and other couples have those long few days from February 15th to February 20th (depending on how many times she had to tell the story of how you forgot or bought her a lame a$$ toaster) where an otherwise happy relationship turns into a dead zone because of those infamous V-Day events. Hell…I’ve even seen people break up! Well…I’ve got a few Real Mogul-Life suggestions to take the sting out of Valentines Day, and add some much needed Love & Affection to any relationship….Mogul Style:
- Create a Valentine’s Day tradition that isn’t as much focused on what you do for each other, but more about what you do for the other people in your lives that add Love and Support to you and your relationship. It’s something you can do together, will make you both feel good, and take the pressure off of measuring your Love by one day’s events.
- Choose another date on the calendar that has meaning (not your anniversary) and make it a point to celebrate your Love on that day. If possible, pick a time when your lives are notoriously busy and you normally wouldn’t have as much time together, and make it a point to do something you both Really enjoy. You can give the day a special name, and even begin to build some relationship enhancing traditions. It’ll give you something to look forward to at time when you need it most!
- Play hookie. Pick a random day, either before, or after Valentine’s Day and disappear with your loved one. Leave no messages, tell no one (other than making arrangements for work), and make no plans. Go somewhere no one knows your name, laugh loudly, be silly, eat well, and make Love someplace you normally wouldn’t The two of you will have secret reasons to smile for weeks to come.
Happy Valentines Day Moguls