Urban Mogul-Life

Whether you agree with celebrating St. Valentine’s Day (February 14th) or not, the commercial display undoubtedly raises thoughts on the presence/absence of love in one’s life, community or even the world. I am particularly moved to think about Black love. My dear parents were married for 30 years before my father’s passing. My folks’ marriage reflected love and respect for each other, their children and for their community. Going out and buying chocolates and roses is a nice gesture; however, I believe it is far more important for us to look at our reasons for being in relationship with others. Not only must we examine our romantic relationships, but all relationships. What kind of partner, son, daughter, brother, sister, husband, wife, father, mother or community member are you? Is your display of love merely one that is seen several days a year, or is it demonstrated in the ways you communicate, extend yourself, pray, share what you have on a daily basis? So, as we observe the commercial displays of love around us over the next week, I offer 5 ways to show your love (in a non-commercial way) that builds toward year-round celebration.

1. Develop a new self-love practice. For example, each morning say to yourself: “I love me,” offer a hug or smile to yourself, list 3 characteristics you love about yourself on your bathroom mirror and read them as you prepare for your day.

2. Reach out to a single elder. Offer to have her/him over for dinner or bring a meal to them. Ask about favorite foods and create a special table with linens and china. Celebrate their role as an elder in our community.

3. Pray with your partner. This is a practice which some believe should be a regular part of a loving relationship, but no time like the present to start anew. Take turns or write a prayer together. You could even type, print and frame a copy for your living space.

4. Volunteer at a community center. After the Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays are over, many non-profits experience a decline in available volunteers. Dedicate a Saturday or evening after work to help out in your community or a needed part of town.

5. Record a love story. Parents, grandparents, aunts/uncles or just friends…there are some wonderful love stories in our community. We hear more about what is wrong in relationships today than what is right. Interview a couple and share it on Facebook or YouTube. Spread the good news about real, down-to-earth, good love.

Peace!